Add MemoryReservation to batch splitting in joins  #13003

Is your feature request related to a problem or challenge?

Follow on to #12969 and #12633

In #12633 @mhilton noted that joins sometimes generate giant record batches which causes issues. @alihan-synnada fixed this in #12969 but internally sometimes the joins still generate giant output batches.

As @mhilton says in #12969 (comment)

Unfortunately this doesn't address the actual problem with creating giant batches, which is they require a lot of memory and that memory isn't accounted for in any MemoryPool. Wiring a MemoryReservation into BatchSplitter would probably be enough to address this though.

Describe the solution you'd like

I would like the memory accounting to take into account the large output batch

Describe alternatives you've considered

Wiring a MemoryReservation into BatchSplitter would probably be enough to address

Additional context

No response