Replace record_batch.get_array_memory_size() in spilling operators #13430

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This issue is trying to track the follow on tasks for #13377

1. Currently record batches' memory size will be overestimated, and this issue will be (partly) fixed by Fix record batch memory size double counting #13377 After merge, other usage of record_batch.get_array_memory_size() should be replaced (e.g. Memory counting in TopK and Sort-Merge-Join) After that, more end-to-end tests for that specific operator can be added
2. Check whether known memory-limited query related bug can be fixed by '1'. Issues maybe related are:
   External aggregation reserves more memory than actual usage #13089
   Further refine the Top K sort operator #9417
   Excessive memory consumption on sorting #10511
   External sorting not working for (maybe only for string columns??) #12136
   Some memory reservations of GroupedHashAggregateStream seem to be mis-tagged as spillable while they do not allow spilling #11390

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