Face-to-face: my own plain line is sent as Chief and held for my approval; approval states wrong on both sides #179

Environment

ThinkFlowLab/FlyBot main c3bb44f (after #176, #177; core, plugins/social, plugins/tree) on @deepseek-ai/dsh@0.2.0-rc.2, Node 24. Two fresh installs on one Linux box: A :3080 (owner SelfA1933, @selfa1933.home, Bots Chief + Helper), B :3081 (SelfB1933, @selfb1933.home, Chief). Bot Social https://47-80-69-220.sslip.io. Scheduled product self-test, 2026-10-17 19:38–19:44 Asia/Shanghai. No model key on the box (model errors are not the bug).

Repro

1. A: + → Face-to-face group → bring Chief → 482913 → Join. B: same number with Chief. Both Enter chat.
2. A types hello from A (no @, plain line).

Actual

• A's own line is held. An inline card shows "Waiting for approval · Chief → the room · hello from A" with Approve, Always approve and Reject. Nothing reaches B until A approves. Same on B.
• Always approve is a plain text link next to two buttons, so the three controls do not match.
• While the line is held, the other member sees no waiting state at all.
• After A approves, A shows "Waiting for the owner's approval" even though A is the owner. It clears later.
• After approval the line takes about 6–14 s to arrive (target ≤10 s, Face-to-face: peer messages take 15-25 s to appear (poll interval 15 s); target ≤10 s #133).
• Always approve toast: "Auto-send on for Chief → the room. Change it anytime in settings."

Cause (code read)

flybot.rooms.onFaceLine → faceOutbound() wraps the human line in FLYBOT-FACE-HUMAN and sends it with faceApi.send(serverId, { botId: Chief }). The server holds it as pending_approval, and the client approves it automatically only when face Auto-send is on (#159). So a person's own typed line is a Chief message that needs approval.

Expected (owner design)

• A plain human line never goes through a Bot (Face-to-face: a human message that does not @ the Bot still starts a Chief model turn #167, fixed in fix(social): plain face-room lines do not start Bot turns; UI polish (#167, #166) #168 for model turns). The person who typed it is the author. Typing it is the approval: send at once, attribute it to the person, no card.
• Approval cards are for Bot-written room lines only. When one is held:
  • the owner sees Approve / Always approve / Reject, styled alike;
  • the other members see a waiting state;
  • the owner never sees "Waiting for the owner's approval".
• Face-room human send: owner approval card shows raw FLYBOT-FACE-HUMAN JSON then vanishes without a click #159 assumed human lines get an owner card. This issue supersedes that part.